Another wonderful evening
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Posted:Oct 3, 2017 1:36 pm
Last Updated:Dec 27, 2018 7:06 pm
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I posted sometime back about my date with the gentleman that flew in from out of state. Well, this past Saturday evening (9/30/17), I had the great pleasure of having his company again. We had a wonderful dinner at Cibreo Italian Restaurant at Playhouse Square, before heading to see the Cleveland Orchestra perform. This was a new experience for me because though I have been out in public, I have never been in a crowd/audience like that. It was a bit overwhelming at first, but as usual my date was reassuring and a joy to be with. Thank you, John, for your company yet again!
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The cat's out of the bag!
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Posted:Jan 21, 2017 7:45 am
Last Updated:Apr 11, 2018 2:19 pm
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So, it has taken a little time to actually have a chance to sit down and type this out. Many of you that know me, know that I have been trying to find the right way/time/scenario to bring my fem side to my wife's attention, specifically my dressing. I lived in denial of Stephanie for many years, and it wasn't until just a few years ago that i stopped that. Unfortunately, i was already remarried and now had a new dilemma. It has been my focus to bring it up to her in a way that was the least confrontational, and had the most likely success of keeping us to together. There were a few times I thought the opportunity had presented itself, only to have it fall through.
A few days into December (2016), my wife calmly asked about a few items she had found, feminine clothing items. Obviously there was the initial panic, and my mind racing to try to come up with something that would explain them without creating a lie I would have to maintain. That wasn't happening. My efforts to present this part of my self in just the right way were all for naught at this point. So i began to explain my fem side to her, just the dressing. While I do enjoy the physical part of this, it is certainly not my motivation for dressing, and I knew/know the physical part of this was/is a deal breaker with her. She listened, and asked a few questions. I reassured her that is is a separate part of me, and that it in no way, shape, or form, diminishes my attraction to her.
I had spent years planning for the worst when I made my revelation. I had tried to go over every possible angle, and the negative outcome. Then, she surprised the hell out of me. She was OK with it. Shocked, yes. A little confused, sure. But all in all, OK with me expressing this part of myself. For right now, I am keeping Stephanie private at home with regard to my wife seeing her. She is not ready for that. If/when she is, we'll cross that bridge, but I am certainly not going to push the issue. We have been taking things as they come, with her asking a few questions here and there.
I got in my car one morning shortly after our initial conversation, and found a card. It read: "I am really proud of you. I know that what you have been dealing with is difficult. I'm really happy that you are so accepting of yourself, and I hope that I can give you the support you deserve. Ten years ago I promised to take you as my partner and best friend, to take you to my heart as you are and will be, to walk forever by your side and grow together with you. To support your dreams and the be there for you for the rest of our lives. I still mean every single word of that. You have my heart forever. I may not be ready for everything just yet, but don't stop being you. I love you!" Still get a little choked up reading that . . .
~Stephanie
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*FORMERLY* Looking for constructive advice.
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Posted:Dec 13, 2015 9:53 am
Last Updated:Dec 13, 2015 9:36 pm
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OK, well I guess I learned my lesson with that one . . .
There were a couple of constructive things mentioned, many of which I had already anticipated and/or read about. Some of the comments I could overlook because there was only so much personal info, background, and situational info I could discuss, and therefore, the respondent could not have known. Lets face it, there is a lot to this. But I found the majority of comments reflected a complete lack of understanding of the word CONSTRUCTIVE or didn't fully read my post, and answered things I had already covered.
I am fully aware that "constructive" can mean things I don't want to hear. However, I don't need to be told what a horrible person I am, or how horrible women are. That's just someone's personal douche-bag rant. And comments about these feelings just going away were so ridiculous they would have been humorous if they weren't so pathetically annoying. Likewise, "better get a good divorce lawyer" isn't exactly constructive. Gee, I never even considered that outcome!!!!! (Can you hear the sarcasm, hmmm?) No shit, brainiac!
For those of you that had something constructive to say, I thank you for your time and thoughts. But, I think in the future, I will know better than to ask for advice from strangers on Local Shemale Hookups. What the hell was I thinking?
----Orignal post below------
I am going to be telling my wife about my fem side, specifically the dressing, before too long, and I would like to hear from those of you that have CONSTRUCTIVE INPUT about this type of situation. To help, here is a little info. I am happily married to an amazingly caring, intelligent, and even tempered woman. I don't do this to "fill in" for anything at home. This is a separate (but integral) part of who I am. She is incredibly observant, and not at all afraid to say if she has noticed something is amiss, so I'm quite sure she does not have any idea about this side of me, or she would have brought it up.
Obviously, my main concern is losing her. Next I'm worried about other people (that I don't want to know about this) finding out. I am not looking for her to be involved in my fem side, or even see me that way. I just want to be able to "go out with friends" occasionally with out having to sneak around.
~Stephanie
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Stalker update, originally from 9/11/15
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Posted:Nov 1, 2015 9:20 pm
Last Updated:Apr 9, 2017 8:45 am
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Some time ago, I was corresponding with a certain individual on here, we'll call him "dazzio1" for posterity sake, and things were looking very good. We live quite a ways away, but we had talked about meeting, and had shared many bits of personal information. One day, without warning, he blocked me on here, and wouldn't respond to any e-mails, here or his account,IM. I tried for some time to get a reply to at least find out what happened, but to no avail. He has since come back on here on several occasions and viewed my profile but keeps me from contacting him (blocking me) to get some sort of explanation. In addition, he has decided to make up some story using my name, that NEVER happened. I consider this type of activity to be stalking. I am blocking him as of today. Please beware of his instability. Maybe i'll start a blog with names of questionable profiles . .
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A wonderful night out.
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Posted:Oct 24, 2015 10:28 am
Last Updated:Jan 25, 2017 2:54 am
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I had the very great honor of going out last night (10-23-15) with an incredibly sweet gentleman, who flattered me beyond belief by flying in from out of state just to go to dinner. Any of you that know me to any degree know that I don't think i'm "all that". In fact, I have a very difficult time (pronounced "incapable of") accepting compliments. So the fact that this man would go to those lengths was enough to make me nervous far and above what I would normally be when going out. I spite of my nervousness, I found it a little easier with regard to going in to the resaurant and walking past people in close proximity, so hopefully that is a sign that this is going to get easier. I went with my black dress, love that one!
We had a wonderful dinner at Cowell and Hubbard in downtown Cleveland. BTW, Yelp! lists it as French cuisine, but it is more Italian. There were a few looks toward me/us, but I'm not sure if they were suspicious or they were flattering looks. Either way, none of them resulted in anything negative, so whatever! Hehe. Afterward, we walked around the Playhouse Square area a little and talked.
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A note to all men . . .
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Posted:Jul 17, 2015 9:13 am
Last Updated:Sep 2, 2021 3:39 am
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"I want to make you feel special."
A friend of mine on here said this to me recently. I know him, and know he is sincere. But it got me thinking about others that have said that and meant it in a totally different way.
I'd like to share some insight with you that I've gained since I started trying to be passable. First, I want to clarify, I'm merely trying to shed some light on what I see as a common misconception that most men seem to have.
Feeling special and feelings desirable are two different things. As a guy, I knew not to be too forward with a girl or it was a possible turnoff. I didn't completely understand why, but I adjusted accordingly. It has only been since trying to be passable and dealing with all kinds of msgs, etc, that I see it more clearly. Bottom line is, all guys want sex, so that doesn't make a woman or a tgurl feel special. It makes her feel sexually desirable, which has its own good feeling, yes. But let's face it, if there were five attractive girls/gurls in a room with one guy, he would want all five.
Treating a girl/gurl like an equal, engaging her in good conversation, holding a door open ( for some, I don't have an issue opening my own), remembering things about her, taking time to get to know her so that when the time comes to be more intimate, she feels like you wanted HER, not just sex. Those are some things that make her feel special.
For me personally, not being treated like freak or a piece of meat is a great start. This situation just made me really think how there are different ways guys and girls/gurls look at things. I have had a unique opportunity to see it from both sides. Sex is great but it is not what makes a girl/gurl feel special. It's what she wants to do when she IS MADE to feel special!
~Stephanie
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Finally did it!
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Posted:Jul 19, 2014 9:45 am
Last Updated:Jan 25, 2017 2:56 am
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7/18/14
Well I finally did it! I went out in public dressed. And it is all thanks to the kindness and patience of a true gentleman I met on line and got to know a little. This was his first time meeting with a gurl at all, and though we were both very nervous, all went well. We met, had a drink, talked a little, and left to go to dinner at a small, very authentic french restaurant. There was good dinner conversation, excellent cuisine, and we both relaxed a little. I'm not sure if our waitress knew about my true nature, but if she did, she never let on. I couldn't have asked for a more reassuring first time.
When we got back to his room, we . . . well, why don't I let your imagination fill in the blanks here. It wouldn't be nice to let out all the details. Lets just say, his kindness was eagerly repaid  . . .
~Stephanie
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